In the wake of the murder of Kellon Hill, apparently by a gang of teenagers, there has been much bellyaching about the failure of parents to live up to their responsibilities to parent their children. This evening I had chance to see perfect examples of both responsible and irresponsible parenting when I went to the 6.15pm showing of The Dark Knight at the Little Theatre.
The Dark Knight is rated PG-13 - or to give the rating its full description, "Parents strongly cautioned: Some material may be inappropriate for children under 13". Indeed. In particular, the violence, and threats of violence, carried out by the Joker even made me feel queasy. He talks about how he put razor blades in his mouth to match his wife's disfigurement; about how his father took a knife to his face to cut him a smile; and at a couple of points in the movie puts a knife to the mouth of his victims and threatens to do the same.
In front of us was a mother with three boys between perhaps 8 and 11 years old. When it got to the scene with the Joker talking about the razor blades, they got up and walked out; I think the boys may have even expressed some disquiet and asked to leave. I applauded their mother for taking them out.
In contrast, across the aisle were a mother and father with two young girls between maybe 6 and 10 years. They stayed for the whole movie. The kids were restless through much of it (not surprising - the movie was over 2.5 hours). Their mother laughed at a couple of the more sadistic scenes (can't imagine how confused that must have made the kids feel) and would not go to the bathroom with her kids until they had stood in the aisle pleading with her for a minute or two. In short, the parents just didn't seem to care.
I was so angry that by the end of the movie I was ready to confront them about whether they really thought it was an appropriate movie for their children to see. To my shame, I didn't get to them before they left.
I can't blame the cinema for letting them in. Young children are even permitted in R-rated movies if accompanied by an adult. But perhaps the cinema should stop every family they suspect of taking an under-age child into a movie and tell them about its content in an effort to dissuade them. Perhaps there's even a case for making age restrictions on movies mandatory, even if an adult is present.
Some may say I have no right to question their decision of these parents to bring their kids. The movie was PG-13 and they had every right to take the children to it. Yes they did. But that doesn't mean their behaviour was responsible.
Parents have the primary responsibility for raising their children, and as such should always be given the first chance to parent their kids. However, when parents are unable or unwilling to do so, I believe the rest of us need to be prepared to speak up and challenge them. The principle of non-interference in parenting needs to die.
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